What is your Purpose?

Tweet This Blog Post!“Why am I here?”

Oh, boy.

For a few years now I’ve come to a personal understanding that the answer to that question is,  “To Pursue my Potential.” For me this means finding the things I enjoy and do well and developing them. It means to Focus with Meaningful Intent and Challenging myself to learn more, practice more and use my gifts for Good.

I have made it my Purpose and my Mission to also help others find and nurture their own gifts and talents. Our personal – and often stashed away – dreams are almost always a direct relative of our gifts and talents. We intuitively know what we are good at and therefore our dreams sprout from this. Our dream job or adventure is always a winning idea because it has both ability and ambition built right in. (Unfortunately, why so many get stuck is Fear.*)

With these things percolating in mind, I have slowly come to the realization that I have been putting my own True Purpose on the bottom of the to-do list. Again and again. I have always wanted to write, I get lost in the Flow of writing and writing is all I ever want to do when I have a day to myself (ha!). But despite that I do it far less than I want – and need (out of fear?). I have been so focused on establishing myself as a coach that my own needs have gone unfulfilled. I have not been focused. I have not listened to my inner voice telling me that I am the most happy when flinging words around.

I love to teach (and I know it is another precious gift that I have no right to ignore) and I wouldn’t give that up for a moment. But I have make writing more of a priority. The more I write the more I plug into my Purpose. With Purpose comes Meaning comes Passion comes Happiness. And it is with Passion and Happiness I will be a better (and hopefully more inspiring) teacher to my students.

I am here to be the best writer I can be.

There, said it! Now, why are YOU here?


Every human has gifts and talents. This does not necessarily mean artistic talents. Some are talented speakers, others listeners. Someone else may have the gift of cooking while another is able to drive a race car with – dare I say? – elegance. The point is to recruit your abilities and then team them up with experience and determination and go for the win! Find your Purpose and Focus on it. No matter what!

Below is the video which prompted this post. It explains how each of us have our very own Purpose (which is why there is no one answer to that age-old question of “Why We Are Here?” ).

Video from http://www.silvamethodlife.com/shedding-light-on-your-life-purpose


* Here are some articles I have written on Fear and how to use writing to overcome it:

Quoting Natalie: Tolerating Fear

Writing through Fear (pt1)

Writing through Fear (pt 2)




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Forget Will, it’s about Mind Power!

If you think you can, you can. If you think you can’t, you’re right. — Mary Kay Ash

Why we fail

Innocent until proven guilty, right? We all know that it is human nature is to operate under the opposite tenet. And we also tend to prefer Believe Once Proven.

We all have things in our life that we want to change, or at least think we do. A bad habit, those extra pounds, time spent playing video games, smoking, or even a certain way of thinking. And why we do fail time after time? Because we won’t believe we can kick the habit or change our behavior until we have proven that we can. Believe Once Proven.

Well, obviously that system doesn’t work so well. As Dr. Phil says, How’s that working for ya? If we don’t believe we can do something until we see that we can, we never will.  You have to believe first.

Know why you will eat that donut even after you have said, I will not eat that donut, over and over again? Because you are focused on the donut. You brain doesn’t hear the “not” and says, OK, Eat Donut! Turn it around and say, I WILL eat the yummy almonds I packed for myself today. I WILL go for a walk instead of turning on the computer. I WILL have a cup of cozy tea instead of a glass of wine.

But first..

First you have to recognize there is something wrong or missing. Then you must truly want to change. Only then can you take the next step. This is where writing comes in. If you are writing from a place of truth (meaning you are being honest with yourself in your journal) you will know when something is wrong. You will also know when you are ready to make the change. If you have acknowledged a problem but don’t seem ready to face it yet, use your journal to explore this. Ask, why am I not ready to make this change?

But when you are ready, keep writing to help you through the next steps of committing to change and to hold yourself accountable.

Focus on the positive always. What you CAN do, not what you can’t or what you won’t do.

This doesn’t just apply to breaking habits or changing behaviors, it is just as effective in how you change your future for yourself. Yes, change your future for yourself.

Write out your positive statements. Write about why you want this change. Write yourself a love letter telling yourself that even with this issue (whatever it is) you are still a beautiful person and why you deserve the best life you can possibly have. Believe you have the ability to reach your potential.

Dear [your name], I love you. Even though I _____ more/less than I would like at this moment, I love and accept myself. I haven’t reached my potential yet, but I have the ability, the drive, and the self-love to do this for myself…

Yes, I will…!

Yes, I can…!

Use the incredible power of your mind to make your life whatever you want it to look like. Believe in yourself and prove you are capable of unbelievable things. Plug into your own incredible power.

Here’s a new tenet to live by: Proven Once Believed.

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Why *do* I write?

I have to admit I am writing this post to avoid what I had scheduled myself to write this morning. These days I have to block out time in my planner for every little thing I do. From the moment the family leaves for the day I must have a plan or else I end up waiting at the school bus stop at 3:30pm wondering why the hell I didn’t just watch soap operas all day – at least then I could say I did something.

The essay is for a contest sponsored by Editor Unleashed and Smashwords and the funny thing is the title of the essay is “Why I Write.” I know exactly why I write: Because I’d curl up and die if I didn’t. But a nine word sentence doesn’t win contests, no matter how emphatic or hyperbolic that sentence may be.

I have a page written and it’s pretty good. There’s a nice analogy flowing through it and some heart felt, universal truths. My writing group liked what I had written so far but I haven’t written a word since I read to them. I’m stuck. I can’t understand what’s stopping me. Is it fear that it’s not good enough? Or could it be that the subject, the question, although seemingly so simple, actually opens a well so deep that to describe it in 750 words is to merely peek over the edge?

To ask Why I Write is to ask who are you? what are you? what are you doing here on this planet?

That sounds a little dramatic, I know, but my life history has been a series of stepping stones leading up to this time when I have my name and words in print and time at home to make it happen. Do we choose our path or is it laid out for us and we just have to dig through the brush to discover it? (Big question! Too many tangents that could take us on.) What I know is I was born to put words down on paper and I feel as if I have no choice in that matter. I could never pick up my journal again, throw out my fountain pen, burn all the paper in the house and I would survive. Yes, I’d function. But I wouldn’t be whole. Unfulfilled. I wouldn’t understand or experience life or myself as well as I might. My potential would be gasping for air, struggling to live and I would atrophy into just a human machine. The “being” part of this human would have died.

And that is Why I Write.

And you?

Jour du Journal: Who are You?

It may seem like a simple question, Who are you? But we are obviously more, much more than our name, our address, social security number, and line of work. We have personal likes, dislikes, memories, opinions, hopes, dreams, and hurts. Usually we reveal a certain amount of this personal information to our family and friends, but how much more do we keep inside? Even hidden from ourselves?

I believe we were put on this earth to achieve our potential, to use our gifts and talents, and if you are unable to for whatever reason, then you are unhappy. Fulfillment = happiness. Think of the times in your life when you were most relaxed, most content, and lost time doing whatever it was. (This is called Flow. But more on that another post.) This is your authentic self and the key to your potential.

If you are to achieve all the things you have the potential for you first need to get to know yourself; where you came from, where you are, and where you are going.

Today I would like you to get to know yourself a little better. Using these three questions that Christina Baldwin asks in Life’s Companion:

I used to be a person who…
I am now a person who…
I want to be a person who…

Write for as long as you need to.

Jour du Journal: Serendipity Fest

How’s this for a series of events?

1. I response to a call to submission on a national mother’s writing forum. She published my essay (my first published work).

2. Turns out the editor/zine just happens to be based in a town an hour away.

3. The very week I finally subscribe to the local paper there is an article about this editor/writer and a book on her experience and beliefs about midwifery and the strength of women during birth – a subject I relate to and have applied to other life experiences in my own writing.

4. I write to her to share my congratulations and thoughts.

5. She invites me to come visit to discuss my journaling workshops.

6. Her zine is going to host a workshop for mothers in the fall.

But enough about me!

My point is, I believe if you are on the right path the path will rise up to meet you.

Henry Thoreau said,

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you’ve imagined.

Goethe said,

… the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too.

Do you believe this to be true? Write about it.