The Authentic Voice Project: Week 4 (New Moon)
D is for Drive
Society says: Drive is good. Drive is what allows one to come from nothing and go to something. Drive makes the downtrodden get up, turns the girl next door into the celebrity on the hill, and gives the death-diagnosis a bill of good health. This is all true. But drive can also be destructive.
Drive to be more… better, faster, slimmer, prettier, richer… this all implies that what is here, now, you, is not OK. Of course, there is always room for improvement, and I do believe in order to have purpose and meaning in our lives we must always reach beyond our comfort zones and propel forward towards our potential. But pursuing our potential must an intrinsic goal if it is to be authentic. However, to be driven towards a goal/standard that is projected upon us by some outside authority – whether that is society, family, your boss, professor, etc. – is not authentic to you,it cannot bebecause it did not comefrom you.
I think women have a special relationship with Drive because we, as liberated women of the 21st century, suddenly feel we have so much to prove. Yes, we can be mothers, housekeepers, cooks (organic and fresh at all times, of course!), volunteers, activists AND full-time employees or students; tough AND beautiful; independent AND care-giving; and the list goes on. Saying “no” is hard to do because we don’t want to be seen as weak or uncaring or uncooperative. And in many cases, I do believe, we are still trying to prove just how smart we are.
I say: You don’t have to prove anything to anyone. Accept yourself for where you are right now, in this moment. Yes, by all means, Drive! But drive towards your own dreams, not someone else’s dream or plan for you (or the plan you think someone else has for you). You’ll know when it’s authentic to you because instead of Monday morning rush hour, it will feel like a Sunday drive through the country.
2 thoughts on “Authentic Voice Project: D is for Drive”
nice! agreed! why is it that we women have that ‘instinct’/’gene’/’social construct’ that we have to do EVERYTHING, and do it all well? why is it that most men don’t seem to have that same kind of ‘DRIVE’ built into them?…. unless it is for financial gain anyway…. ???
Joanna, I’m thoroughly enjoying your Authentic Voice project. This one especially spoke to me, since I finally feel as though I’m driving toward my own dreams. Such a change from all those years ago when I felt trapped in Corporate America and a job that was killing me, body, mind, and spirit.