Authentic Voice Project: B is for Belief

The Authentic Voice Project: Week 2 I was near tears already. Angry-sad tears at the current state of affairs in our country and world. So it wasn't with the most gracious heart that I took in the message on the frame around the license plate of the SUV parked in front me: "If you are … Continue reading Authentic Voice Project: B is for Belief

Shape of shade and shadow

This is one poem in a series from the “Write to Recover” group I facilitate. I put them together from phrases that resonate with me while participants read. I add nothing but punctuation and the occasional conjunction. This one is comprised of the words of four participants who were writing on the prompt, “A fellow … Continue reading Shape of shade and shadow

A is for Anger

The Authentic Voice Project: Week 1 AUTHENTIC VOICE As we are beginning with A, I will take a moment to define Authentic Voice as I understand it. I believe we all have an Authentic Voice. It is the one that comes to us from various sources: intuitive insights dreams emotion-body reactions (such as butterflies in … Continue reading A is for Anger

It is nothing but the first

This is one poem in a series from the “Write to Recover” group I facilitate. I put them together from phrases that resonate with me while participants read. I add nothing but punctuation and the occasional conjunction. This one is comprised of the words of three participants who were writing on the prompt, "A gift..." … Continue reading It is nothing but the first

Gaslighting, not just for women anymore

That's not what you saw! That's not what you heard! That is not what I said! Sound familiar, America? Yes, we residents of the United States are being subjected to what is known in the psychological world as gaslighting. Gaslighting is a form of manipulation through persistent denial, misdirection, contradiction, and lying in an attempt … Continue reading Gaslighting, not just for women anymore

Happeningness

This is one poem in a series from the “Write to Recover” group I facilitate. I put them together from phrases that resonate with me while participants read. I add nothing but punctuation and the occasional conjunction. This one is comprised of the words of three participants who were writing on the prompt, “This I … Continue reading Happeningness

Authentic Voice Project (revisited)

This is the first of series I started five years ago (to the day). A lot has changed for me personally and in the world since I wrote these posts, so I'm curious and excited to re-visit them. For redefinition, I was thrown back to myself, to my inner knowing… Marilyn Sewell, Cries of the … Continue reading Authentic Voice Project (revisited)

Please do surrender to your nature! (Or Life, Photoshopped)

I wrote this post four years ago. Over the past few months the still pronounced sexism of this country has been thrown into the spotlight, so this post seems just as appropriate today.

To suppress or disdain women (or any “Other”) is to “posture,” as one article I read recently put it. To posture, to pretend, is to be inauthentic. This takes mental and emotional energy — it takes a psychological toll. This is from a recent study:

“Men who see themselves as playboys or as having power over women are more likely to have psychological problems than men who conform less to traditionally masculine norms, according to research published by the American Psychological Association.”

Similarly, I would assume, women who allow men to have power over them or belittle them as sex objects, would suffer emotionally. (I know I would!)

We are not born hating another; it is learned behavior that goes against our natural need to belong in community and be loved and to love. Our “traditional” roles are not necessarily “natural” and if we insist that we and others play them, we are hurting everyone involved. We have to stop photoshopping our society to supposed ideals intended to keep the hierarchical, “power-over” status quo in place. It’s time for “power-with”!

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I’m usually not one to jump on a bandwagon. If everyone’s doing it I tend to turn the other way. But this one could not be ignored. I, as other angry men and women already have, must respond to a certain backward-thinking op-ed article. (A particularly good response is here.)

I recently read Suzanne Venker’s article: The War on Men in which the author blames us liberated women for upsetting the “proper” way of the world by forcing men to compete with us instead of doing what they all prefer, which is, apparently, look after us incompetent creatures. Apparently we’re just not womanly enough anymore and – poor guys – they’re so confused. But, the author, happily concludes: “there is good news: women have the power to turn everything around. All they have to do is surrender to their nature – their femininity – and let men surrender…

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This is not a political post, it is a processing of grief

This morning I woke to find that the nightmare developing when I finally went to bed at 1AM, the one where the map turned increasingly red, was real. I immediately broke down sobbing. I haven't really stopped since. My children have never seen me like this; it scared them. I tried to gain control of … Continue reading This is not a political post, it is a processing of grief

Path to Publication, pt 16: It’s happening!

Wow, it's been a looooong time since I last wrote, especially on this publication series. And here's one of the reasons why: I'm about to get published! Quick background: Over 18 months ago I was hired -- as a history buff, writer, and someone with some graphic design skills -- by a historical society to … Continue reading Path to Publication, pt 16: It’s happening!